drunk at a frat what shd i do
tbh i threw up
As someone who goes to frats a lot:
-never go alone
-always have a DD; if you’re walking have a designated Sober Buddy
-if you don’t have a Sober Buddy, find someone ahead of time who isn’t drinking that you can call to come pick you up if things go sideways.
-always drink before you go, however if you want to drink while you’re there then bring your own drink, preferably in a container with a lid.
-bring snacks, you will need them
-have water on hand, pack a backpack of all the supplies you might need. YOU WILL NOT LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT, A BACKPACK DOES NOT RUIN YOUR OUTFIT
-never ever ever accept a drink from someone else, EVEN IF ITS SEALED I have heard stories that the frat Fiji on my campus has a bottle resealing machine. There are pictures of it. Fuck Fiji. They are notoriously the worst all across the nation.
-if you feel sick, STOP DRINKING. Have some water. DONT EAT YOUR SNACK JUST YET, YOU WILL IMMEDIATELY THROW UP I learned that the hard way.
-if you throw up, brush your teeth. If you can’t, at LEAST rinse your mouth out.
-if it is cold outside, and you throw up in a snowbank, and you are alone, DO NOT SIT DOWN, PEOPLE ARE ASSHOLES AND THEY WILL LEAVE YOU THERE
- don’t wait until you really want to leave to call your DD, if they aren’t at the party, it will take them some time to come get you. Call them 10-20 mins before you want to go.
-if you meet someone you think is cute, and you want to give them ur number/Snapchat/insta/whatever , and you are both drunk, THEY WILL FORGET WHO YOU ARE. Yeah, be brave, go out there and meet people, but don’t rely on them messaging you first the next day they will have no clue who you are, and they won’t remember that you met. Don’t play hard to get, be aggressive. They’re hungover, and they don’t care to find out who this random new number/friend/follower is.
- in the case that you are alone, or you have lost your friends, go find the frat boys running door. They don’t want you sad and upset just as much as you don’t want to be sad and upset. They don’t care, they just don’t want you to give them a bad reputation for having crying drunk people all over the place. If you want to leave, they want you gone, and they’ll most likely help you get out safely. The boys running door are also likely to be the most sober.
-IF YOUR DD DOESNT COME THROUGH: often times frats will have a DD of their own that they take shifts doing. Some don’t, if they have rules against it, but some like Alpha Sigma Phi have them. I have used it before. Kappa Sigma does not. I don’t know about Tau Kappa Epsilon, I live within walking distance of them. (Information subject to the University of Maine, I cannot speak for other chapters)
-do not hang out outside of the building, you will get in trouble. They don’t want you signaling to the cops that there’s a party going on. Stay inside, until you’re sure you’re leaving. Then leave quickly.
-look up ahead of time if your school does a shuttle service. We used to have one for safety reasons, for kids who went out partying and “lost track” of their DD.
-if it’s dangerously cold outside like it has been in Maine the last few days, and you are in a dangerous situation trying to get home, call the non-emergency number for the police. Have it programmed into your phone. They will come get you if you are unsafe.
-if you don’t feel safe calling the cops, call campus police. They are a lot less likely to ask questions, as they are very very used to drunk teenagers. They are also a lot “safer” (at least in my area) than regular cops, in terms of discrimination. They’re (usually) a lot more chill. They are more likely to care about your safety.
I will add on to this as I learn from my mistakes.
